Only say what is helpful when it is needed for building up the community so that it benefits those who hear what you say. 30 Don’t make the Holy Spirit of God unhappy—you were sealed by him for the day of redemption. 31 Put aside all bitterness, losing your temper, anger, shouting, and slander, along with every other evil. 32 Be kind, compassionate, and forgiving to each other, in the same way God forgave you in Christ. (Ephesians 4:29b-32, Common English Bible)
I have had concern for the past couple of years about the way we treat each other. It seems to me that it is easier today to see people being unkind to one another than to find those who spread kindness. I want to live in a kinder world. I want my grands to see kindness in others and grow into people who are loving, compassionate, and kind.
So, I have come to a few decisions. First, when I see an act that is unkind, I am going to give some kind of (hopefully) tangible act of kindness, hopefully for the person who was just treated with unkindness but if not them, for someone. Second, I am going to at the very least give it a mention in my blog post for that day. And third, I am going to devote Friday Favorites (my Friday post), as much as possible to kindness on Friday. Why did I choose Friday? The main reason being, The day before we are out doing all sorts of things, we might need a little reminder.
I also think it is important for me to say, I am a work in progress. I get angry, sometimes very angry and I can be hurtful. That needs to stop. I believe if I am devoted to kindness, I will have those things and I will be reminded that I need to stop and be kind.
I found this on Readers’ Digest, and thought I would share it with you today. I believe it is a great way to shine light on the power of kindness.
Leslie said she was in grocery store and headed for the check-out When the cashier calculated her bill, she was $12 over the cash she had on hand. She decided to get what she could and would come back tomorrow for the rest.
Leslie began pulling groceries she could get by for a day without, when a man approached her and gave her a $20 bill. “Sir, I do appreciate your gift but really, you don’t need to do that,” She told him.
“Let me tell you a story,” the man said. “My mother is in the hospital. She has cancer. Every day I go to the hospital for a visit and I bring her flowers. This morning she got angry with me because she thought I was spending to much of my money on flowers. She insisted that I do something else, with that money. Please accept this. It is my mother’s flowers.”
I feel pretty certain that Leslie was touched by the effort of kindness alone. It wasn’t like Leslie was a person who was in great need. She was in need at the moment and someone came to her and met that need.
The article didn’t really tell how Leslie or the man felt about the act of kindness later. I think that because Leslie sent the story to Reader’s Digest she was touched by the man’s effort.
As for the man, I think we can safely assume he was hurting. His mother is hospitalized with cancer. Just about all of us would be hurting. It probably hurt him as well when his mother got angry. He was in a situation where there was little he could do and she rejected, not out of meanness or spite but because she was sure there were places where it could be better spent (or at least better to her). But, I also feel strongly, based on research I have read on the giver and acts of kindness, he was happy because he met a need in someone’s life and made their day better. They were better so he was better.
In the grand scheme of things, this wasn’t an earth shattering story. It is the story of one individual doing something kind for someone else. In the end, the simple act of kindness likely made both feel better. And, in that moment, the world became better. But, it won’t stay better if we don’t find ways to be kind to one another.
Seeking the Genuine,
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