It’s Not Hard to be Kind

Only say what is helpful when it is needed for building up the community so that it benefits those who hear what you say. 30 Don’t make the Holy Spirit of God unhappy—you were sealed by him for the day of redemption. 31 Put aside all bitterness, losing your temper, anger, shouting, and slander, along with every other evil. 32 Be kind, compassionate, and forgiving to each other, in the same way God forgave you in Christ. (Ephesians 4:29b-32, Common English Bible)

I have had concern for the past couple of years about the way we treat each other. It seems to me that it is easier today to see people being unkind to one another than to find those who spread kindness. I want to live in a kinder world. I want my grands to see kindness in others and grow into people who are loving, compassionate, and kind.

So, I have come to a few decisions. First, when I see an act that is unkind, I am going to give some kind of (hopefully) tangible act of kindness, hopefully for the person who was just treated with unkindness but if not them, for someone. Second, I am going to at the very least give it a mention in my blog post for that day. And third, I am going to devote Friday Favorites (my Friday post), as much as possible to kindness on Friday. Why did I choose Friday? The main reason being, The day before we are out doing all sorts of things, we might need a little reminder.

I also think it is important for me to say, I am a work in progress. I get angry, sometimes very angry and I can be hurtful. That needs to stop. I believe if I am devoted to kindness, I will have those things and I will be reminded that I need to stop and be kind.

I found this on Readers’ Digest, and thought I would share it with you today. I believe it is a great way to shine light on the power of kindness.

Leslie said she was in grocery store and headed for the check-out When the cashier calculated her bill, she was $12 over the cash she had on hand. She decided to get what she could and would come back tomorrow for the rest.

Leslie began pulling groceries she could get by for a day without, when a man approached her and gave her a $20 bill. “Sir, I do appreciate your gift but really, you don’t need to do that,” She told him.

“Let me tell you a story,” the man said. “My mother is in the hospital. She has cancer. Every day I go to the hospital for a visit and I bring her flowers. This morning she got angry with me because she thought I was spending to much of my money on flowers. She insisted that I do something else, with that money. Please accept this. It is my mother’s flowers.”

I feel pretty certain that Leslie was touched by the effort of kindness alone. It wasn’t like Leslie was a person who was in great need. She was in need at the moment and someone came to her and met that need.

The article didn’t really tell how Leslie or the man felt about the act of kindness later. I think that because Leslie sent the story to Reader’s Digest she was touched by the man’s effort.

As for the man, I think we can safely assume he was hurting. His mother is hospitalized with cancer. Just about all of us would be hurting. It probably hurt him as well when his mother got angry. He was in a situation where there was little he could do and she rejected, not out of meanness or spite but because she was sure there were places where it could be better spent (or at least better to her). But, I also feel strongly, based on research I have read on the giver and acts of kindness, he was happy because he met a need in someone’s life and made their day better. They were better so he was better.

In the grand scheme of things, this wasn’t an earth shattering story. It is the story of one individual doing something kind for someone else. In the end, the simple act of kindness likely made both feel better. And, in that moment, the world became better. But, it won’t stay better if we don’t find ways to be kind to one another.

Be blessed.

Seeking the Genuine,

Copyright 2020, J. Keith Broyles, All Rights Reserved

Published by drjkbroyles

I love Mike Ashcraft's book, "My One Word." For the past nine years I have participated and encouraged others to participate to in the "My One Word" Challenge. My first word was discipline was my word the first year. Since then my word has been focus, sight, jungle, peace, concentration, serve, genuine and this year is fit. I seek to be fit for my health, my family, my church, my ministries. I seek to be fit in any are of my life where God might point to me. I also have a nickname, "Dr. B." When I was a public high school teacher, Dr. B. is what most of my students called me, at least in my presence. I am still called that by many people though I no longer teach in public schools. I am the author of "Average Joe: With an Extraordinary Story" (available on Amazon). The book fits into the genre of "Biblical Fiction" or "Christian Fiction" and features some of the Bible's lesser known characters. The name of my blog is, "Fork in the Road." Life is filled with forks in the road. It isn't a matter of if we encounter a fork in the road, but when will we and how many will we experience in a lifetime. I love to strum my guitar. I am not a great guitar player but I enjoy it. I also enjoy writing music. I get excited with I feel a new song emerging. I live with my wife Cindy and our little dog, "Bishop" in Lufkin, Texas. I spent the past 30 years as a United Methodist pastor, serving churches all over east and southeast Texas, from just north of Tyler to south of Houston, from the Gulf Coast to east of Madisonville. I currently serve Perritte Memorial UMC in Nacogdoches. I spent one year in the classroom, teaching High School government, economics, psychology, and sociology. Cindy and I have been married for 43 years. We have two grown sons and six grandchildren, three boys and three girls. I enjoy preaching and all it's aspects from research to writing to the actual preaching event. I also love writing, reading. I have dabble in drawing and "painting" with pastels as well as woodworking and woodcarving. My current projects are two ukuleles. I collect, repair and restore guitars too. I play the guitar (badly, but I still do) I also enjoy working with paracord on various projects, mostly prayer ropes I usually give away. I hold an Associate of Applied Science Degree in Business Data Processing, from San Jacinto College in Pasadena, TX, a Bachelor of Science in Political Science with a minor in History from Sam Houston State University in Huntsville, TX, a Master of Divinity from Southern Methodist University in Dallas, TX and a Doctor of Ministry from Carolina University of Theology. This blog started out as devotional writings. In August of 2020, I made a major change to the blog, switching to a daily theme format. Sunday Sermon-usually my manuscript sermon Miscellaneous Monday-misc. writing, poetry, ministry Tuesday Thoughts-Devotion Wed. with Wesleys-hist. & theol. of early Methodists TED Talk Thursday-Video & appl. in current theology Five for Friday-5 things I've seen & my thoughts Sing-Along Sat. - Usually a new song I have written I write, "Strumming a G-Chord with Dr.B." to get my thoughts onto something permanent. After all, they say, once something is on the internet it never really goes away. Still, I hope you enjoy reading it. Who knows, it might generate a bit of discussion between you and me and anyone else who might make their way here. Seeking the Genuine, Keith Lufkin, Texas August 2020

One thought on “It’s Not Hard to be Kind

  1. Keith~ Enjoying the Pondering…even picking up and idea or illustration, too! I need to ask you a question, but only by phone, i.e. not quite as public as an email.  Can you give me a call, or send me a number where you can be reached? Thanks! Arthur

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