“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted” (Matthew 5:4, New Revised Standard Version).
When my father passed away late last year, I had a number of people telling me things about how I should grieve. “Don’t be sad, everyone loses a parent.” It is a true statement, at least the second part of it, we all do lose parents. And while there are some people who are not sad, the majority of which have pretty good reasons, it was grief I and my family felt. Telling us not to be sad, was not going to make us happy. It just isn’t that simple, for any of us. When we mourn, when we are in grief, someone telling us to be happy is not going to make us happy.
Jesus said, “Blessed are those who mourn…” Why do we want to deny people a blessing? The thing is, we don’t want to be around sadness. We don’t want to be around tears. What we seem to want is to be around people who are on top of the world. Then many will complain that they are fake because they are always happy.
In this lesson Jesus says “Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted.” What blessing is there in mourning? Though I can’t remember who said it, but I recently read that one persons idea of blessing in grief is in the strength we gain from the experience. His idea was that when we are finally comforted we emerge from our grief stronger for the experience.
While it is not a bad theory I think the author missed the boat. Why do we grieve when we lose a loved one? Why did I cry like a little baby when I had to euthanize a family dog? Why was I so upset when I lost a job? Why did I grieve when I was a kid and my girlfriend traded me in for a different model?
We experience mourning because there is love in our hearts. How can we expect blessing if there is no love in our hearts? Why would we need comfort if we had no love? Who is going to comfort us if we have no love?
Love is the key. “Blessed are those who have loved and lost. Because they have loved and likely will love again, they will be comforted.”
Have you mourned? You are blessed because you have loved and you are loved.
Have a blessed day in the Lord.
Joy and Peace,
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